We all know that language is very important in communication. We communicate with others, but more importantly, we communicate internally with ourselves. What do you tell yourself on daily basis?
The art of language and communication is one that we all must master to be very successful in the 21st century! If you agree with this statement, then follow me through the process of how we communicate language and create meaning for events that happen outside of us. I’m not exploring how we communicate with others here, but I’m expressing to you how you and I communicate with ourselves.
Before any human being can begin to communicate internally, something must happen externally to trigger off that communication, i.e. something must happen outside of the boundary we call us for us to begin communicating with ourselves.
Let’s call this an external event. There are varying degrees of events, from small events like someone’s birthday, making a meal, attending a seminar etc., to big life-changing events like the 9/11 incident in the states, the 7/7 bombings in London, winning the jackpot in the lottery draw, having a baby etc.
As the external event occurs, our nervous system can only gather and process the information received from that event through our five senses:
- See – Including the sights we see or the way someone looks at us.
- Hear – Including sounds, the words we hear and the way that people say those words to us.
- Touch – Or external feelings, which include the touch of someone or something, the pressure, and texture.
- Smell – One of the strongest senses that we all possess, which includes how something or someone smells.
- Taste – includes all forms of taste e.g. sour or sweet.
When it comes to communication, the first three – sight, hearing, and touch, are more prominent than the last two – taste and smell.
As soon as our nervous system receives the information through our five senses we immediately begin to filter the information. Let’s talk about the filters for a moment.
You and I have inbuilt into our nervous system three incredible filters – deletion, distortion, and generalisation. They are innate in our nervous system to ensure that you and I are a success-driven machine, and if we do not discover how they work and function then they could work against us. Not understanding this point is like having a brand-new computer without any manual on how to use it! And this is how most of us are running our minds.
As the event occurs outside of us, we instantly begin to filter that event by deleting, distorting and generalising the event based on our past experiences, which is based on the psychology – values, beliefs, habits, and decisions, we have adopted. The instant we filter the event, we create something in our minds. We create an internal representation or better said an internal re-presentation of the actual event. This is what we term as our reality of what we think the event means to us.
The meaning we give to events directly affects our emotional state.
And our emotional state in turn directly affects our body. The body also affects your state, which in turn affects your mind, your internal representation. This is what is known as the mind-body connection or the body-mind connection; both mind and body are linked via our emotional state.
I could go on and on with this topic, however, I would love to keep it short and sweet. So, in the blogs to come I will elaborate a bit more on:
- Filtres – deletion, distortion, and generalisation
- Mind-body & body-mind connection
- Communication model
Do you have questions about internal dialogue? Comment below!
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